Since my last blog, I have been mostly biting my tongue. For those in foreign parts, in the UK it is now illegal to smoke inside a public building. In Wales (no idea about England) it is illegal to smoke in doorways or within a certain distance. In work we have signs that state this, we have set smoking areas complete with special bins and a rain shelter, yet people still smoke under the no smoking signs and block the entrance. I’ve given up pointing out the signs and asking them to move. Work is not enforcing the rules, so what’s the point? Some-one even had the gall to put a note on the door stating their rights as a smoker! People do have the right to smoke but they don’t have the right to block the doorway and smoke in no smoking areas. It’s a no-win situation.
I’ve been biting my tongue over my friend but had to say something last night. He texts me when he’s going out, he texts when on the way home, he texts when he’s home. He saw me Saturday and Sunday, we spoke last night for almost an hour, and he signed off by saying that he’d call Tuesday too. Oh hell no! I like him. I like that we talk. But some of us are out of the house for 9 hours and things need to be done after work. I can’t ‘afford’ to talk on the phone for an hour every night. Nor do I want to. I need some ‘me’ time too. I told him I’d call on Wednesday.
I’ve been biting my tongue over my ex. I picked my son up from the train station Sunday morning, and yet again he was almost an hour later than the agreed time. It’s the last time, so little point in saying anything but my ex does drive me crazy. He’s not leaving for 3 weeks, but is ‘too busy’ to see his son again except for a quick goodbye the week before he leaves. I just hope there won’t be tears. I’m finding the whole situation so stressful and I’ll be glad when he’s finally gone and we can get back to some sense of normal again, just the two of us.
My sister, the one who had the operation, was on the phone this morning. Her company won’t fire her; it’s against the law because she’s on sick leave. They won’t let her back to work because she’s a liability. This morning she found out they haven’t paid her for the last 2 weeks, and are not going to anymore. She can’t claim certain benefits because she’s still employed. But they’re not paying her. It’s a ridiculous situation! I gave her some numbers to call, and hopefully social services will get off their butt and do something. She’s worked like a dog most of her life, paid het taxes etc, and gets treated like this! It’s a disgraceful state of affairs.
I often hate this country and would leave it in a heartbeat if I had the money. Unlike some people though, I wouldn’t leave my son behind!
I’m off to have a coffee and calm down lol. Have good day/week.
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Thanks Summer. I'm not too sure it's legal either. Hopefully she can sort something out.
Definitely need to keep boundaries! I like my freedom, and I like time to myself too.
I hear you when you say you want and need some "me" time and your friend must accept that. Maybe he feels stronger towards you than you do him. He does sound a tad needy though - needing to speak so long and so often to you. As for your ex - it doesn't sound as if he's thinking about his son's needs, more of what HE wants not your son. It will be better when he's gone though - but expect your son to be either very sad or angry. He might feel anger towards your ex because he's gone and left him behind.
I hope you steered your sister towards the CAB, they have Solicitors who will do work for free and send the correct letters to her company explaining their obligation to pay your sister and also will write to the Social Services to tell them of her plight. As soon as Solicitors get involved, then things usually start moving in the right direction. Good luck with that.
You rant as much as you like, Fran, it's better you do it this way, then you can calm down and sort things out yourself.
Yes, he can be needy but I'm a very independant soul and always have been I need, not want, my space and time alone - I don't include my son in this; he's never an intrusion.
I make sure my son knows I love him, always hug him goodbye lol, but I understand how he might feel angry or hurt come the E-day (emigration day).
As for the Smoking rules, well we too have them. No smoking in Pubs, Restaurants Official buildings, shops, buses, trains etc, but not yet banned in the street nor can Civil servants regard our homes as extensions to their place of work. Some Pubs, clubs, restaurants etc, have waved the rules but must advertise that they do allow smoking in order to be free of idiots reporting them over and over again.
In Japan it is more or less the same though street smoking is forbidden in Tokyo, there are Smoking areas, like a bus shelter with ash trays on posts, in Railway stations for the Bullet trains "Shinkansen" there are waiting rooms for smokers, most of the Bullet trains do not have smoking compartments, those that do have them right at the end of the trains which have 16 coaches meaning a very long walk at the station. People are not permitted to smoke or buy tobacco until they have turned 21 years of age, they must however get permission from their Doctor first, they then get a plastic card just like a Visa card to present to the shop keeper, or to use in the slot machines. Tourists can only buy from shops by showing their passport.
I always quit smoking when in Japan.
It is similar in Thailand too.
Love the picture John, what a novel idea! Here, it seems children are smoking younger and younger. Thankfully my son hates cigarette smoke, and none of his friends smoke so he's extremely unlikely to start. I honestly don't know how people can afford to smoke, it's so expensive.
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